UPDATE FROM SEPTEMBER (3)
I have gotten SO MANY messages and downloads for the last 30 hours I’m exhausted lol. Here are a few:
1. The dream space is WILD lately (Record your dreams if you can - even the slightest detail retained will be interesting to reflect on in time. These items are hand delivered by our subconscious. People sometimes think it doesn’t matter, it’s not much that I can recall. It DOES. Every single detail in a dream matters).
2. We are collectively releasing so much angst There is a major agitation in collective energies and it may be hard to find that cool, calm center right now. It is still there 😅 but the currents that are passing through seek to untether us from its access point with more force than usual. Be patient w yourself and feel all your emotions. As a reminder, feeling negative emotions feels Negative (shocker!) But it doesn’t mean it’s bad to do it! It’s simply explains why we naturally avoid it… You gotta feel it to heal it.
3. The visual my guides showed me yesterday for this End of September energies: A Chinese finger trap ! If you are not familiar with these childhood toys, when you fight to remove your fingers from the end of it, it tightens and traps you.
Do not fight the tension that arises in the passing days. It will intensify the constriction energetically and create more pressure and stress.
The Chinese finger trap also represents sort of a wormhole or vortex shape that I feel we are moving through. I really hope everyone is doing well - I am sending prayers out. I am swimming in a sea of deep emotions and weird encounters 🌊 🌊
4. Another message: Somatic movement - release stagnant energy from the body. Go stand in the yard and shake your aura out. Envision things flying off you and moving away.
5. Song synchronicities From today:
…Running With the Night - Lionel Richie
…What If I Never Get Over You - Lady Antebellum
The second one in particular, I woke up in the middle of the night, and I was singing it. Super weird 😂 like what?
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6. Q&A Question I received: (thank you for asking!)
How do you know if you’re in love with someone’s potential or if you’re rightfully identifying the areas that require compromise in order to have a functional relationship that supports mutual growth?
Answer I have: (hope this helps!)
No one can tell you except yourself if you are compromising in a productive way or in a way that borders self betrayal If you can imagine being content with your partner even if they NEVER evolved (which is pretty unrealistic; we all change over time unless we fight to stay the same), then you know you love them for who they are and not who they may become one day While it is perfectly reasonable and likely to not love every single thing about someone else, If they don’t WANT to change certain things about their behavior or your dynamic, don’t make them. If they’re self aware and working on their own development and healing and you’re holding space for them to keep evolving as you do the same - then both parties love each other through their imperfections as they evolve individually and as a result, the strength of their bond. It’s important to hear from another person what THEY love about themselves, and what they are still working to change. Sometimes, people inadvertently lie about what they’re working to change, too. It’s because we like to show our best self to the person we’re trying to attract. We aspire to break habits but our karmic soul learning may not be ready to break free of these things yet. Take actions of another as true evidence of commitment over words, always. In the past, I’ve been criticized by partners who didn’t actually love me for me. While they said they did, and I felt loved in many ways, if you’re BEING criticized or feel like you’re DOING a lot of criticizing, It’s important to realize where that is coming from on each person’s end. OFTEN, people pass off baseline incompatibility for “compromise.” It’s hard to admit you’re just not compatible. But it saves people so much strife from trying to make the wrong things work that.. maybe just aren’t destined to. And while we in part choose our destiny, we can convince ourselves that things are worth fighting for especially when the dynamic subconsciously confirms or reminds us of an unhealthy dynamic we are yet to unearth and heal. We don’t need to keep working on something if it is mostly-bad. But it is important to communicate honestly through challenges instead of being avoidant or anxious through attachment styles. This might look like saying you’re feeling like you just want to shut down and not have the conversation (avoidant attachment) - to even communicate that alone is progress and something your partner would appreciate so that you can figure out why it’s so triggering. It may also look like drawing boundaries around the things you’re willing to accept and what you’re really feeling is compromising of your own happiness. There were parts of myself I didn’t want to have to compromise in the past ! Not because they were unhealed or I was in denial (although I did have things to work on, or course) but because the other person wanted me to be less-this and more-that in a way that I simply DID NOT resonate with. It felt like changing myself to make them remain attracted to me or stay “exciting.” It wasn’t til much later I even realized I had “cart-and-wagoned” (as I often say in readings) into a separated version of myself where my inner world was quite different than how I interacted with my partner. I had not even realized it while it happened but somehow I had begin to cater my outward expression of self to be more satisfactory to the ways HE had confirmed he liked me to be. ??? Not good lol. A big red flag when it comes to compromise is when a person says they’re open to working on certain challenges you may be experiencing as a couple, but then do not seem to put any effort through practice into actually changing. It doesn’t mean they didn’t hear you, or don’t WANT to make things work, But some people are capable of acknowledging the issues intellectually, yet have a ways to go still to recognize what it means to INTEGRATE the root causes of their patterns and enact change that is lasting. Whether you stick around for that or not goes back to a number of compatibility factors and whether or not this person stimulates growth within you from a healthy (not pressured) place, And if your needs are being met to your satisfaction level regularly, even though you’re both on a healing journey and imperfect.
